Sometimes You Just Need to Zip It: Oversharing Isn’t Empowerment

This post reflects on Oversharing Online (Muslim Girls) and the way digital life encourages exposure over protection.

We live in a world that pushes us to share everything.
Your struggles. Your wins. Your friendships. Your heartbreak. Your du’as. Your low moments. Your therapy notes.

But sometimes… you just need to zip it.

Not because you’re fake.
Not because you’re hiding.
But because not everyone deserves access to your inner world.

What happens when the friendship ends?

You’ve probably seen it.
Two girls were inseparable—until they weren’t.
And the second it goes bad? One of them has every screenshot, every secret, every mistake the other made… ready to weaponize.

She’s hurt. Or mad. Or jealous. And now she wants revenge.
So she talks. Posts. Spreads. Exposes.

And suddenly, what you thought was safe becomes a story for everyone else to consume.
Even if you never meant harm. Even if you trusted too fast. Even if you just needed someone to talk to.

Oversharing Online (Muslim Girls): What’s Really Happening?

You post everything—your face, your wins, your lows, your marriage, your apartment, your new bag, your sad girl era, your goals, your du’as…

And what does it create?

• Hateful comments
• People misreading your life
• Stalkers (yes, actual stalkers)
• Judgment
• Pressure to keep performing your life

Let’s be honest—people who used to support you might roast you the moment your life changes. The moment you lose a job, or money, or peace. They’ll act like they were just waiting for it.

Some people even go from comment sections to straight up harassment.
And sadly, some girls have been pushed to drastic decisions—even unaliving themselves—because of the mental toll this took.

This isn’t about being scared. It’s about being wise.

“Seek help in having your needs met by being discreet, for everyone who is blessed with something is envied.” This was narrated from the hadeeth of Mu’adh ibn Jabal, ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib, Ibn ‘Abbas, Abu Hurayrah and Abu Bardah (may Allah be pleased with them).”

( Though the hadith was classed as da’eef (weak) it was classed as saheeh (authentic) by al-Albani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah. The link is for you to go read more about the hadith if you want. )

Not everyone is evil. But not everyone is emotionally or spiritually clean either.
Some people are fast to envy. Fast to gossip. Fast to twist your words when they’re bored, bitter, or no longer close to you.

So why tell everything? Why show everything?

That doesn’t mean walk through life cold and suspicious.
But it does mean:

• Hold your blessings closer
• Tell your du’as to Allah, not people
• Keep your confessions for your intime conversation with Allah like the night prayer.
• Share your story after it’s healed—not while it’s bleeding
• And not if it means revealing sins or uncovering what Allah already concealed
• And never if it hurts someone else’s dignity—family, friends, anyone
• If you truly believe sharing your past will help someone—ask someone of knowledge first. Not a therapist. Not TikTok. Someone who knows the deen.
• Healing doesn’t need to go viral. And real advice starts with fear of Allah

Final reminder

You’re allowed to be real—without being exposed.
You’re allowed to love deeply—without giving people power to destroy you.
You’re allowed not to post your face and videos.
You’re allowed to post less, say less, tell less—and still be good.
You’re even allowed to delete your social media if you want to or not have it at all. It’s up to you.

Privacy isn’t fear. It’s protection.

May Allah protect us from people who smile with envy in their hearts, and may He protect others from us if ever we fall into the same.

If this post helped you reflect, you might also like our other blog on Why We Lie Online.